There’s something beautiful about the quiet. Peace can be found there. The kind of peace that heals. The kind that settles deep in your bones, softens the sting of the past, and gives your soul room to breathe again. After walking through seasons of noise, confusion, and emotional turbulence, that peace can feel like a gift straight from heaven—a sacred silence that restores.
But here’s the thing no one tells you: Even peace can become a prison when we use it to hide.
What began as holy rest turned into quiet retreat. What was I hiding from? I thought I was enjoying stillness. But in truth I had become afraid of all the moving pieces. Afraid of the noise.
I was snapping at my kid to “Turn that down”! Even though it wasn’t that loud.
I was waiting 3 to 5 business days to return my friend's text. Like an actual friend.
I was canceling plans last minute like something “came up” when I wasn’t even dressed. Like who was I fooling?! Everyone knew I wasn’t going! They didn’t even push back.
At first, I called it Protecting my Peace. Boundaries. Maturity. But if I’m being honest, it was fear—fear wearing the mask of peace, and I was somewhere underneath. Unsure of how I truly felt.
The Hidden Walls of Isolation
Can I be real with you? There’s a fine line between preserving your peace and building a wall that keeps everyone out—including the ones God sent to walk alongside you.
But I didn’t know that when I was building! I didn’t know that everything I was afraid of had somehow crept over to the side I WAS ON. They were on the wrong side! So now I’m in this room made of walls I built. Just me, me and all my fears.
Fear of being overwhelmed.
Fear of being hurt again.
Fear of not being good enough.
Fear of getting caught up in the noise I’d worked so hard to escape.
And they couldn’t leave. They were trapped there too. So we had to talk!
And here’s what I learned: Avoiding the scary stuff only makes it scarier. Like refusing to look under the bed at my big age of 33 cause 6 year old Sparkle said it was a monster under there! Lol don’t judge me! You ain’t looked under yo bed neither!
The point is, it doesn’t help to shut everyone out, cause you’re still stuck with YOU!
We weren’t meant to go through life alone.
Even Jesus, who often withdrew to pray, didn’t live in isolation. He assembled His people. He walked with them, ate with them, laughed, cried, and lived with them.
“Let us not give up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but encouraging one another—and all the more as you see the Day approaching.” (Hebrews 10:25)
Connection is not chaos. Community is not the enemy. Sometimes, the very thing we’re avoiding is the place where healing begins.
Stepping Out of the Bubble
I had to ask myself: Is this peace or is this prison?
The stillness I once loved started to feel too quiet—like an echo chamber of all the thoughts I didn’t want to think. And God gently reminded me that He designed us for connection.
Even in Eden, where everything was perfect, God said, “It is not good for man to be alone.” (Genesis 2:18)
So I made a decision. To open up. To let people in again. To take the risk of community here with HolyFlow, knowing that true peace doesn’t come from perfect solitude—it comes from the presence of God and the people He places in our lives.
Real Peace Makes Room for People
Peace doesn’t mean isolation. It means confidence in God even in the presence of others. It means learning to rest even when the room isn’t silent. It means trusting that God can protect your heart without you having to hide it.
Because sometimes, peace isn’t found in the absence of people—but in the presence of love, laughter, shared burdens, and divine connection.
So Here’s the Reminder I Needed (and Maybe You Do Too):
I can enjoy stillness without using it to hide.
I am safe with God—and with the right people, I can be seen and supported too.
I will not confuse avoidance with peace.
I will embrace connection, conversation, and community—with wisdom and grace.
You’re Not Alone
If you’ve been living in a quiet bubble for too long, afraid to step out, I see you. I get it. But you don’t have to stay there.
Take one small step. Text a friend. Join a small group like this one. Speak to someone at church. Wave at a neighbor. It might feel uncomfortable at first, but it’s also a doorway to healing.
God’s peace was never meant to be a cage—it’s meant to be a covering as we move through life, together.
Reflections
Let’s pause and reflect:
📌 Have you mistaken isolation for peace? Are you hiding from connection in the name of protection?
📌 What relationships might God be nudging you to open back up to?
📌 What’s one small way you can reconnect this week—with God and with others?
Journal your thoughts. Pray for the courage to be seen. Ask God to send the right people into your life—and to give you discernment and strength to receive them.
True peace doesn’t lock you in—it sets you free. So take a deep breath, open the door, and let light (and love) back in.
BIO
Sparkle is a Mother, Content Creator, Actress, Entrepreneur, and HolyFlow Ambassador! As believers we’re called to disrupt the atmosphere, and I intend to do just that…with my faith-based content and HolyFlow! I aim to remind women everywhere that they’re worthy of peace, joy, love and success in all forms!
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